Motherhood has been very odd for me. If im being honey there have been times that I’ve looked at my ideal parenting and been disappointed at my current lack of skill. Comparison truly KILLS. Im not really one to verbalize comparison. But, again this is a transparent series. I’ve compared the way my son smiles when I walk in a room vs his dad, I’ve compared how one momma manages frustration vs me, here’s the BIG one I compare how the mom who has a home, husband, and cars vs me lugging a car seat on my hand alone during the morning hutching over into my small compact honda civic. Here’s what I do know, the grass is not greener on the other side. I know it because I even consider the nights that these women may feel like they get absolutely no help from their spouse. How the house is completely loud yet they feel all alone, the children are as happy as can be but the parents are thinking about separating, money is low so everybody is scraping for food and etc. We all have our own issues and we bare them all differently. Let’s explore scripture today. Now again this is my diary so im talking to you but this is for me too! Let’s discover some scriptures for these moments of comparison.
2 Corinthians 10:12 (esv)
Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding.
Here’s a question, do we lack understanding when we compare ourselves? When do we question ourselves? Understanding is going to be the cause of us dismantling comparison. But, that’s not all let’s look a little further.
Galatians 1:10 (esv)
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Everything boils down to this very scripture. Am I basing my assessments on man’s approval or God’s approval? Im going, to be honest, and say that man’s approval has been a huge attraction for me. If people were pleased with how I raise my son, date, or parent I’d be ok. But, I have to remember daily that God’s approval is what makes me feel the best. His approval has to overrule any opinion. Until myself and we learn how to make his approval be our only source of validation. We will continue to suffer comparison.
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